Look Who's Talking Too

                                                                    

I watched Look Who's Talking Too today. Cute movie. However, their marital problems  were so blazingly obvious, I felt like I could help them in a 5 minute counseling session! (If only it were that easy!)

1. John Travolta is content with his job, but Kristy however, is not. In an attempt to "help" him, she asks her mom and dad to call in a favor and get him a better job.  Now they are in debt to the parents, ( the mom makes clearly known), and when John tells Kristy that the whole thing makes him feel like less of a man,(in other words), and that he doesn't want the job, she...
2. uses crying as a way to manipulate him into agreeing with her!!
3. John and the little boy, Mickey, have made a decision about that particular nights bedtime. Kristy comes in and completely undermines him by telling Mickey he must go to bed and she doesn't care what John and him already agreed on. When John explains to her that the decision had been made, she ignores him and makes him look like he has no authority whatsoever to the kid. Obviously, this ticks John off!
4. Kristy lets her little brother(mid-twenties) move in and live on their couch! John is unhappy with this from the start, but he really gets annoyed, (like most people would), with all the things the brother does around the house. ie. leaving one sip of milk left in the container, borrowing John's clothes, carrying a gun, etc.  Kristy completely disregards Johns wishes and refuses to kick the brother out, (who is a capable, grown man) . Ouch!
5. Kristy gets all dressed up in seductive clothing when she realizes she wants John back (oh yeah, he got tired of it all and left), and tries to talk to him, but she gets frustrated when all he can focus on is her cleavage! She calls him a dog or something like that! Really, what do you expect from a man who loves you when you are dressed like that??
6. They play the "I will take credit for everything,  and always try to one-up you game." There is a fire in the kitchen and their conversation goes a little something like this.. "good thing I bought a fire hydrant." "I bought the fire hydrant." "No, I did, you told me I was being overly cautious." "Well, who left the kids with your brother anyways?" Oh geez, pride, pride, pride...it's ugly! Enough already!

As I was watching the movie, I couldn't help but wonder if the producer was making all of these things so obvious on purpose, or if that's really just the way a lot of marriages are??

What are some ways that you are guilty of doing things like the above? I know that I have been a little too quick to disagree with Jason about the kids lately in front of them.

What is one thing you can do to commit to building up your marriage instead of tearing it down?  I am going to look for ways to trust Jason instead of thinking I know best.

Disclaimer. I am not saying it is bad to work for your in-laws. Or to live with them. Or to cry. Or to disagree about parenting. Every example above is specific to the movie. What I am saying is that our motives and approach matters.